She Ra vs. He Man - Who Has The Power?

Even as a young girl, there has been no end to my desire for a career where I could be in a position of influence, with the ability to help those younger than me develop skills that will help them for the rest of their professional lives. Over the years, I have moved up in the ranks at the camp I volunteer for, starting as a camper, and ending up as Creative Director. At my parents' restaurant, I moved through all of the positions, and eventually ended up as manager. When I completed college, I continued my career in restaurant/business management. More often than not, this was at the expense of my relationships. While initially men are attracted to a woman that is strong and has initiative, in the end many men don't want a woman that shows them up. They don't want a woman that will push them out of their comfort zone, purely by chasing her own ambitions. I have several ex boyfriends that mentioned to our friends, after the fact, that they broke things off because they felt emasculated. They preferred the comfort and ease of not seeking their own potential. Sadly, I have gotten used to this phenomenon. It is part of the reason I started dating my fighter. I was seeking someone with proven ambition, where I would always feel feminine, and there was no way I could ever emasculate him, no matter how well I did. But, as history shows, those relationships can blow up in my face, too.
For the last five years, I have been in management for a company that I have loved. Unfortunately, a couple of months ago I made an honest mistake on a technicality that I was unaware of, and it recently cost me my job. The company was in a difficult position, and I completely understood their actions. It was not an easy decision for them to make. My boss was in tears when she told me. I have been heartbroken this week, and have felt that much of my world is crashing around me. I won't be able to continue developing employees that I care about. Regular clientele that have become dear friends will be left wondering what happened. Today it hit me that I won't be seeing other mall employees again that have become family to me. After half a decade of stability and friendships, I am sincerely at a loss about what my world is now. Even while applying for jobs, I have no idea what I want my next step to be. The one thing I know is that I need time to figure everything out.
The one place where I am strangely in high demand right now is in my dating life. Several men have shown direct interest. Good men. A red flag here and there, but good men. And every single one of them has no qualms about the fact that I am currently unemployed, and that I am mess. Now that I am vulnerable and broken, they are like moths to a fire. I kind of want to kick them.
But I guess when it comes down to power, even without my strong position at this moment, I am still soft and feminine and tender, and that is more valuable than any influential position can offer.